This Wilderness Our Home

Because comfort matters for the one waiting, too.

I’m a planner when I’m excited or when I want to make things run smoothly. With our third baby, I had my bag and the baby’s bag planned months ahead — Amazon lists, backups, and things I knew would outlast the hospital stay.

My husband, John, is the opposite. He’s a timber faller — up before dawn, used to cold mornings, long drives, and physical work that starts when most of us are still asleep. He’s not fussy. He can sleep anywhere, eat anything, and figure things out as he goes.

He packed a backpack a few days before my water broke, and for the most part, it worked. But afterward, we both realized that a few extra comforts would’ve made those days (and nights) a lot better.

For you (or your partner):

Whether you’re packing your own bag or quietly making sure your person remembers theirs, this list is about practical comfort — the kind that keeps you steady, fueled, and rested through all the unpredictable parts of a hospital stay.

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🛏 Real Rest: Sleeping Comforts

Hospitals try, but those partner couches aren’t built for sleep. They’re technically “beds,” but “technically” doesn’t mean “comfortable.”

Inflatable camping mattress — a slim, backpack-style pad makes a world of difference. Pillow from home — one familiar thing in an unfamiliar place. Throw blanket or quilt — hospitals run cool; layers help.

If you’re the one packing, don’t underestimate sleep. It’s not weakness — it’s what lets you show up again the next morning.

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🥐 Food + Early Morning Fuel

John wakes early — usually 2:30 or 3 a.m. — and that internal clock doesn’t stop just because he’s not in the woods. He’s an early breakfast eater and needs real fuel to start the day.

In the past year, he was diagnosed with Eosinophilic Esophagitis (EOE) — triggered entirely by food sensitivities, mainly dairy and possibly wheat. That means being thoughtful about what he eats isn’t optional; it’s essential.

Breakfast snacks: shelf-stable items like protein bars, nuts, jerky, or instant oatmeal cups (check ingredients). Mini-fridge options: if the room has one, stash safe foods that fit your partner’s needs. Water supply: bring a large refillable bottle, plus an extra gallon jug for refills.

He always felt awkward asking the nurses for water since he “wasn’t the patient.” Having his own meant one less awkward moment — and one more thing handled.

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🥿 The Small Comforts That Matter

Little things make the biggest difference when the days start to blur together.

Slippers or slides Portable charger (and cord!) Headphones or earplugs Soft shirt, socks, and sweats Fresh clothes for the drive home

Partners spend a lot of time waiting. Comfort keeps patience steady.

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🧼 Toiletries + Freshen Up

Even if they don’t plan to shower, a quick reset makes a long stay bearable.

Pack a small toiletry kit with:

Deodorant Toothbrush + toothpaste Face wash or bar soap Compressed towels or wipes Hairbrush or comb (if needed) Medications — daily pills in a labeled bag or small organizer

A few minutes to freshen up can reset the whole day.

🎁 Free Printable Hospital Bag Checklist

I made a printable checklist of everything we actually packed (and used).

No fluff, just the essentials.

Grab it here → The Partner’s Hospital Bag

Print, check, and you’re ready.

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It’s easy to overlook the partner’s side of the hospital stay — they’re not in the gown, but they’re in the story. They’re holding hands through contractions, running on adrenaline, making phone calls, and trying to nap on the world’s flattest couch.

Packing with them in mind isn’t about luxury. It’s about care.

It says, You’re part of this too.

They’re your calm, your advocate, your reminder to breathe.

And they deserve a little comfort, too.

🪶 Author’s Note

I write these reflections as part of This Wilderness Our Home — a collection of stories and guides about motherhood, meals, and making sense of the seasons we live through.

Every postpartum looks a little different — even for the same mom — and this space is where I try to honor that truth. Some days are tender, some are steady, and some are just about getting through.

If you’re somewhere between exhaustion and wonder, between healing and rediscovering who you are, I hope you find a bit of calm here.

You’re not behind. You’re becoming.

(From my family’s tiny cabin in the woods — with tea, love, and probably a baby in my arms.)